On a cold morning in February of 2015, I woke up in my warm home, read my Bible, drank coffee with my wife, and woke up my two kids from their snug beds. We fed them breakfast, and I drove them to school. I kissed each of them before they went in to learn from teachers who loved them, in classrooms that were inviting, and among friends they enjoyed.
That same morning, across our small town, my other two children, Sloan and Brooklyn, woke up in a hotel room with a person they didn’t know. Their biological mother had dropped them off and disappeared to get high on methamphetamine. Sheriff’s deputies were called because the person with whom they had been left didn’t know what to do with them.
Sloan and Brooklyn were transferred to the custody of the South Carolina Department of Social Services. They were placed into an emergency foster home for a couple of weeks and then were separated. In just a few short weeks, my 3-year-old and 2-year-old lost their parents, and they lost each other.
Brooklyn was fortunate enough to land in a foster home where she would be loved for eight and a half months. Sloan, however, was labeled a difficult kid. My blond-haired, blue-eyed 2-year-old spent the next eight months being bounced from one foster home to the next. When he came to live with us two days before Thanksgiving in 2015, he had been moved six times in eight months.
I share this because stories matter. Stories communicate. My story helps to put names and faces on a problem that we as the church have been called to engage.
And my story is just one. There are more than 4,000 children in foster care in our state. Because of the lack of foster homes, 61 percent of those children have to be placed outside of their home county. That means many children who are placed in foster care don’t just lose their homes and their families, they lose their school and friends. They lose everything.
DSS reports there are more than 500 adoptable children in the state of South Carolina. More than 500 children — and 2,100 South Carolina Baptist churches. More than 500 children whose lives and eternity hang in the balance. If Christians turn their backs on children in need, then we have sentenced them to a Christ-less eternity. We can do better. We can be pro-life from womb to tomb, and pro-life means pro-foster care and pro-adoption.
Not everyone can or should adopt. Not everyone can or should be foster parents, but every church should look for how they can be involved in care for orphans. Every church can pray for orphans and support foster parents. Every church can recruit foster parents or invite the South Carolina Foster Parent Association (which was started by a faithful South Carolina Baptist, Carl Brown, who is a member of Spears Creek Baptist Church) or DSS or any one of dozens of other foster care agencies to come and speak to the need that exists.
There are hundreds and thousands of Sloans and Brooklyns in our South Carolina alone, kids who need to experience love from great parents and loving churches.
James urged us this way in chapter 1, verse 27: “Religion that is pure and undefiled before God the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.”
We were once orphans, but no more. God has adopted us and made us His own. He has given us a hope and a future. There are thousands of children in our state who need a hope and a future. It’s high time that we acknowledge this need and heed Christ’s call.